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February 10, 2014 / diannegray

Beating Multiple Myeloma

I posted a story last year about my 83 (now 84) year old mother who had been diagnosed with Multiple Myeloma. She had multiple tumors through her spine and ribs. You were all fantastic and supportive in your responses and I felt an overwhelming sense of support and love. I can’t tell you how much I admire and love this blogging community.

Some of my blogging friends have been through, or are going through, very serious illnesses and when I read their posts I feel a great deal of compassion and I wish for the day they can write a Tests are all clear! post (you know who you are).

-Now for some good news-

– After 12 months of chemo my mother’s blood tests last week revealed –

😀 😀 😀  no sign of cancer 😀 😀 😀

*(She is in remission)*

A big CONGRATULATIONS is in order for my mum. I admire her strength and courage – she’s a true champion and I love her dearly!

heart                                                                                       XXXXXX

Now – I hate to add a sour note to this post, but I’m going to:

When I wrote the post about my mother last year I received a comment from someone calling themselves Anon (how original). I didn’t approve it and that’s not because I’m into censorship – I was mainly worried because my mother reads my posts and the comments and I didn’t want her to see such a bitter and negative comment regarding her illness.

Today I responded to Anon and no longer have him/her/it haunting my unapproved comments box.

Anon said

“As an oncology nurse, I find this blog post really distasteful. Myeloma is an incurable cancer and your mother is seriously ill. Insinuating that giving her an ipad and access to your blog would result in a ‘miraculous’ recovery is fantasy at best and seriously trivialising the disease at worst. The work of the Doctors, nurses and carers in stabilising the disease and assisting your mother has not been mentioned. It takes more than ‘on-line love’ to support cancer sufferers.”

I replied

“I haven’t approved this comment until today. The reason being my mother reads my blog and I didn’t want her to think:

  1. You are actually an oncology nurse
  2. You knew what you were talking about when you stated ‘Myeloma is an incurable cancer’
  3. That someone who professes to work in the medical profession could be so blatantly naïve to think that family support and love have no place in medicine.

I am not a doctor so I can neither prescribe nor administer the medicine she needs. I can only do what any other child can do – try to make her happy and comfortable and to feel as if she is loved. When she reads my posts and smiles because I’ve said something funny or she sees a picture of my children or what I’m doing with the house (she can’t travel here to see it for herself) I feel as if I’m doing something instead of nothing.

My mother was given the ‘all clear’ news from her doctor last week. You’re welcome.

I sincerely hope you don’t put comments like this on the posts of other’s who are doing their best to put a smile on a loved one’s face because if anything is distasteful, it’s people like you who think they can take out their negative thoughts and bitterness on others while you wear the mask of Anon.”

That’s enough of my time wasted on oxygen thieves calling themselves Anon.

Time for a champagne 😀

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  1. JackieP / Feb 10 2014 2:27 pm

    You go girl!! I think I remember that blog. And it does make a big difference when loved ones put a smile on the patients faces. Anon didn’t know what they were talking about and I’m glad you didn’t answer them back then. Big hugs to your mum and to you!

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    • diannegray / Feb 10 2014 2:32 pm

      Thanks, Jackie! I’m glad I didn’t answer them then as well – I didn’t want to be too negative at the time because I it was just ‘fingers and toes crossed’ that she’d pull through…

      I love your hugs xxxx

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  2. ramblingsfromamum / Feb 10 2014 2:29 pm

    and i now DO A HAPPY DANCE – Yay to Mum – Whoot Whoot!!!!! 🙂 🙂 So happy for her, for you and all the family Di. Oops have to stop dancing typing is getting tricky. Well as for Anon – oh lordy what a thing to say, I am so glad you have responded as you should have!! Sometimes people are famous/infamous for their notoriety. Oh well lovely, forget Anon – onward and upward to you and to your gorgeous MUMMY!!! 🙂 xxxxx

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    • diannegray / Feb 10 2014 2:36 pm

      YAY – thanks, Jen! I love happy dances and can feel your energy sweeping through this post 😀

      😀 xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx 😀

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      • ramblingsfromamum / Feb 10 2014 2:54 pm

        happy dances are always good, sometimes a little manoeuvring is required around the chair and desk…but what the heck she’s worth it 🙂 xxxxxxxxxx

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      • diannegray / Feb 10 2014 2:59 pm

        Haaaa! You’re just gorgeous! 😀

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      • ramblingsfromamum / Feb 10 2014 3:05 pm

        shucks 🙂 xx

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  3. Photos With Finesse / Feb 10 2014 2:29 pm

    I have a friend going through peritoneal cancer at the moment. I read up and prognosis is generally good. On top of which her mental attitude is amazing, and her sister was given a year to live with a variety of different cancers and made it 17 years. So she also knows cancers can be beaten. One of her ‘friends’ left a message on her answerphone saying “oh, I’m so sorry, that’s dreadful, it’s such a difficult disease to fight…” All completely negative and depressing. I really wonder why people do it. Are they so miserable in their own lives that they feel justified in sucking all the hope out of the lives of others? I’m so thrilled to hear your mum made it through 12 months of chemo! That alone is challenging enough at 83. To get the all clear definitely deserves the champagne! I’m impressed you kept that message and told the woman off. I think I would have sent her a stinking diatribe as soon as I got it – then deleted it from the blog. 🙂 As for my friend, her counts went down 65% after the first treatment and they think she’ll only need three. We’re all cheering for her!

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    • diannegray / Feb 10 2014 2:44 pm

      Negative people really give me the poo poos! My mother’s tumours were so bad that they actually cracked her vertebrae (sounds awful I know, but she soldiered on!) At no time did she give up or did any of us give up, and no one said – this is it – because it ‘ain’t over til it’s over’ (so they say).

      Your friend’s message on the answering machine is so awful! I really wish people would understand how damaging it is to take away hope 😦 and the fact that her sister lived another 17 years after being ‘given’ one year is outstanding and so inspirational! 😀

      Please let your friend know I’m cheering for her as well xxxx

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      • Photos With Finesse / Feb 11 2014 12:34 pm

        I sure will! And we’re pulling for your mum too! I know the residual chemo effects can be as much challenge as the cancer itself! One day at a time – and lots of champers! 😀

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  4. kford2007 / Feb 10 2014 2:34 pm

    Bravo! Anon needs to learn that healing vibes are all around and they come from everyone, everyone, and happiness, peace and contentment are the first steps to recovery. What a troll. Glad you and your mom could prove him/her wrong. I pray in his/her time of need , (s)he has someone like you to bring moments of peace, tranquility and love. (S)he will need it.

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    • diannegray / Feb 10 2014 2:48 pm

      Mental attitude is so important when it comes to illness and I’m stunned that anyone would think otherwise in this day and age. I think it’s so unfortunate that people like anon will not know what times like this are like until it’s too late for them. To find a post about hope ‘distasteful’ is very odd indeed…

      Thank you for the ‘bravo’! 😀

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      • kford2007 / Feb 10 2014 3:38 pm

        Your mom must be an amazing woman!! Hats off to you both. Fabulous news on the all clear.

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  5. avwalters / Feb 10 2014 2:46 pm

    Congratulations to your mother–the most important part of your post. And bravo, for all the decisions you made with respect to Anon.

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    • diannegray / Feb 10 2014 2:49 pm

      It is so important and thank you on the congrats – she is an absolutely amazing woman! 😉

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  6. DaydreamsInWonderland / Feb 10 2014 3:27 pm

    Oh sweetheart, I’m so glad your mom got the all clear. & Hats off to you for giving that person an honest piece of your mind. People like that are just depressing & I really, truly hope she is not someone’s nurse.

    *hugs to you & your family*

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    • diannegray / Feb 11 2014 4:26 am

      Thank you so much for your best wishes and hugs, my darling – it’s been a big battle and my mum has fought hard. The chemo caused other health issues, but she’s still going strong and I deeply admire her courage 😉

      I sincerely hope anon is not someone’s nurse as well 😦

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      • DaydreamsInWonderland / Feb 11 2014 5:37 am

        I’m sorry to hear the chemo caused some other health problems. Although, she beat this so I’m sure she can beat that as well. I know what having a family member going through all that is like. You are doing the best thing by surrounding her with positivity & love. Give her a big hug & a kiss from all of us.

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      • diannegray / Feb 11 2014 7:21 am

        Will do my darling 😀 Chemo is never an easy road, but she is getting better every day 😉

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  7. John / Feb 10 2014 4:20 pm

    Amen, and way to go with the rude comment, Dianne! First rule in commenting (for me) is if you can’t be respectful, or just leave a non-offensive comment – don’t. I respect my online friends and value them as though I have visited with them personally. 😉

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    • diannegray / Feb 11 2014 4:30 am

      That’s exactly right, John – you’ve hit the nail on the head here. I’m polite in your house and people who visit my house are welcome because they’re polite. Your words put a big smile on my face this morning because my mother always says ‘If you can say anything nice, don’t say anything at all’ 😀

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  8. kathunsworth / Feb 10 2014 5:00 pm

    Dianne I love a miracle in my day thanks for sharing your special news how wonderful for you and your mum blessings to you both

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    • diannegray / Feb 11 2014 4:34 am

      It was against all odds, Kath. Her age and the advancement of the disease were huge roadblocks to overcome. I really hope this news lifts the spirits of others who are facing a similar battle.

      Thank you so much for your beautiful thoughts 😀

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  9. davidprosser / Feb 10 2014 5:00 pm

    Your news is FANTASTIC. Congratulations to all the family. I think you just dealt with Anon very well.
    Giving your Mum anything to take her mind off the problem is great. giving her an ipad allows he access to the outside world and to happenings in the family and access to those who may not be able to visit. You ended her isolation which is brilliant as there’s little worse that having too much thinking time on your hands in hospital.
    xxx Huge Hugs xxx

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    • diannegray / Feb 11 2014 4:39 am

      This is so true, David and the main reason why I wrote the first post. She had never used a computer before and when she had all that time on her hands (and was feeling so ill) it really opened up another world to her. It moved us closer together (I live 3,000 miles away).

      Thank you so much for your beautiful thoughts and positive energy. I always love seeing you here 😀

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  10. susipet / Feb 10 2014 5:28 pm

    Oxygen thief….great term! Delighted for you and your mum

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    • diannegray / Feb 11 2014 4:41 am

      LOL – that was my ‘polite’ term for this person 😉

      Thank you so much for your warm thoughts (I’m very delighted as well!) 😀

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  11. 1girl4adamwest / Feb 10 2014 5:56 pm

    The human spirit will always put the “negatives” to shame. Sending your mum the best “Hear me roar” strength always!!!! whooohooooo!!!!!!

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    • diannegray / Feb 11 2014 4:42 am

      I can hear your roar! 😀 Thank you my darling, no room here for negative people 😉

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  12. 1EarthUnited / Feb 10 2014 6:49 pm

    That’s wonderful news, I’m so happy for you and mum! From a clinical perspective, “anon” is entitled to her opinion. Perhaps from reading your blog, she’ll learn love and compassion plays a significant part in the healing process. God Bless, and bravo for handling the comment mindfully. Cheers!

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    • diannegray / Feb 11 2014 7:52 am

      I agree anon is entitled to an opinion, I just couldn’t put it up at the time because I didn’t want my mum to see it (she was very fragile) and I guess I was as well and maybe took it too much to heart 😉

      Thanks so much for your best wishes – it’s so nice to belong to a supportive and positive community like this one 😀

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    • Kozo Hattori / Feb 15 2014 7:46 am

      I agree with Maddie, hopefully anon will learn how important compassion is not only in the medical field, but in all relationships. Congrats to your mother. Heartwarming to hear how your mother reads your blog and is inspired by it. {{{hugs}}} Kozo

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      • diannegray / Feb 15 2014 1:15 pm

        Thanks so much, Kozo! {{{hugs}}} to you my friend 😀

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  13. mrscarmichael / Feb 10 2014 7:40 pm

    Fantastic news, Diane. I am so pleased for all of you. Fantastic responses to Anon Nurse. Your post probably made her day as she gossiped at work about how stoopid the general public (her patients) is.
    I remember saying to a nurse on the phone from the uk to nz when I was told mum was terminal and I was about to fly home, “can you tell her I love her?” and she said “I’m sure I don’t need to”. Or would that read I don’t really want to.
    “Will you do it anyway?” I asked and knew in my waters the request was hopeless.

    Thanks for sharing – good news is infectious – in a good way.

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    • diannegray / Feb 11 2014 4:47 am

      Thank you Mrs. C! Fantastic news it is 😀

      What a silly thing for that nurse to say to you. How hard is it just to say, ‘okay, I’ll tell her that.’ It’s not as if you were asking her to jump off a bridge. It’s times like these you realise how far a few kind words can go and how negative ones made you wonder how these people can look at themselves in the mirror each day xxxx

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  14. bulldog / Feb 10 2014 7:55 pm

    This is just brilliant news… and to Mom good on you kicking the butt of the C…
    Linda, my wife has had three different cancers and I know how you feel every time they go for the blood tests and visits to the Oncologist..
    Linda has now been clear for three odd years and I still panic when we go for the check ups… and when the results are “All Clear” I want to dance naked in the streets, BUT, that sight would probably cause more sickness than health so I don’t…
    As for Anon I’m glad you gave her the letter, people like that would not be tolerated on my or Linda’s blog, in fact she would get the proverbial finger from me…
    This thing called the big C, is more times than not, a disease that can throw all kinds of curve balls that even confuses the very doctors that are specialised in the field… and being who Linda and I are, having her fight this C for 20 odd years we have spoken to so many that have reacted differently to the norm, so no nurse can say what Anon said…
    But back to Mom, this South African is so happy to hear the news, in your honour I’m considering that nude dance in the street… Good for you, keep on fighting and kicking the butt of the C…

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    • diannegray / Feb 11 2014 4:59 am

      Oh please do that dance, Rob! People who have never had to face the ‘all clear’ have no idea what elation it brings. It’s like you can see the world clearly again and all the colours shine through (and that dance is the best way to express it) 😀

      Linda is an amazing and strong woman. She has kicked C in the butt three times and I truly admire her courage. She puts true meaning into the words. ‘never give up, never surrender.’ xxxxxx

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      • bulldog / Feb 11 2014 5:13 am

        Can I do it in the dark of night? lol

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      • diannegray / Feb 11 2014 7:19 am

        Haaaaa! Absolutely. I just read the rule book and the dark of night is acceptable 😀

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  15. the eternal traveller / Feb 10 2014 8:06 pm

    I’m so pleased to read your wonderful news Dianne. Best wishes to your Mum! She must be a very determined and brave lady. Unlike Anon who deserves no more attention…how very rude and thoughtless some people are.

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    • diannegray / Feb 11 2014 5:11 am

      It is great news about my mum and worthy to share with the world – particularly those who are facing a similar battle.

      Thank you so much for your best wishes! (and no more attention to thoughtless people) 😀

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      • the eternal traveller / Feb 11 2014 6:19 am

        As my mother and father have aged I have realised just how precious our parents are and I know how lucky I am to have them both still, well and healthy and active.

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      • diannegray / Feb 11 2014 7:34 am

        So very true! 😀

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  16. bluebee / Feb 10 2014 8:08 pm

    😀 😀 And if Anon had watched ‘Australian Story’ tonight, she would have seen that progress on ‘incurable cancers’ are being made all the time, including stage IV glioblastomas of the brain – never crush hope. Cheers to your Mum and you – that is really wonderful news for your family.

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    • diannegray / Feb 11 2014 5:13 am

      I didn’t watch Australian Story – I might see if I can catch up online and watch that episode 😀

      Thank you so much for your best wishes – sending you hug hugs and loads of love, my dear! 😀

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  17. bodhisattvaintraining / Feb 10 2014 8:33 pm

    Wonderful news Dianne, and I’m so glad you didn’t let your mother read that comment during her healing phase.

    You’re more generous than me – I hope anon learnt something from you 🙂

    xx

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    • diannegray / Feb 11 2014 6:11 am

      Thanks so much, Annie 😉 It certainly is wonderful news.It’s been a battle for her to get where she is today and positive thoughts played a large part in winning that battle 😀

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  18. paulaacton / Feb 10 2014 9:26 pm

    Great news! My aunt is still fighting cancer, 12 years ago she was given two years to live and that was a generous prognosis, her daughter was 8 when she was diagnosed and it is through sheer will power that she has fought to stay alive to watch her daughter grow up, she sets targets a little ahead christmas, easter and this time round the net target will be seeing her daughter graduate university, cancer can be fought and beaten, anon seems to not realised every extra day a cancer suffer has is a victory in itself the only way cancer wins is if you lie down and do not fight

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    • diannegray / Feb 11 2014 6:36 am

      It’s absolutely wonderful to hear about your aunt, Paula – what an amazing woman. Given a ‘time limit’ alone is enough to make the strongest people feel totally helpless. Even the word ‘cancer’ has dire connotations without someone putting the word ‘incurable’ in front of it. I love the way your aunt sets targets because it’s so important to have something to look forward to – brilliant! 😀

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  19. Carrie Rubin / Feb 10 2014 10:05 pm

    What would compel someone to leave such a negative comment? Positive energy is an important element in chronic disease care. I don’t blame you for leaving the response blocked. But what wonderful news about your mother! So happy for her and your family!

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    • diannegray / Feb 11 2014 6:47 am

      Thanks so much, Carrie. I don’t know why some people just want to be total weirdos (I’d insert a weird emoticon here if I could find one) 😦

      You’ve nailed it here and as a member of the medical profession I salute you! “Positive energy is an important element in chronic disease care” 😀

      Thank you, darling xxx

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  20. 4amWriter / Feb 10 2014 10:26 pm

    Good for you and for your mom! I am really happy she has come through a scary time. I hope that ‘Anon’ is reading this post and realizes the mistake he/she made in targeting the positive aspects of your first post. Maybe he/she will learn something valuable from this.

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    • diannegray / Feb 11 2014 6:49 am

      Thank you so my, my darling.

      Life is all about learning and negative strangers have no place in my life. My mum is an absolute star and I’m soooo proud of her! 😀

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  21. EJ / Feb 10 2014 10:26 pm

    What great news! ❤
    I can imagine how angry I would have been to get that post and how hurtful it would have been – I think you did well not to respond with a couple of choice words!
    I'm so pleased that chemo was successful – and I really hope your posts supporting your mum have given strength to others xx

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    • diannegray / Feb 11 2014 6:54 am

      Thanks so much, EJ 😀

      I was pretty angry because I thought ‘how dare you!’ but I can’t let people like this get me or my mum down – they really are oxygen thieves!

      I’m really hoping that this post gives others who are feeling things are hopeless some hope. People who are sick don’t need negative influences because it’s hard enough to keep upbeat as it is xxx

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  22. gina drellack / Feb 10 2014 10:44 pm

    Well done Dianne.Very well done. ❤

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  23. nrhatch / Feb 10 2014 11:02 pm

    Fantastic result for your mom . . . and fabulous response to Anon. Yay x 2!!!

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  24. karenblopez / Feb 10 2014 11:31 pm

    Congrats Dianne! You have made it to the “negative’ comment stage! hats off you you and your Mom!!! (I have missed your posts, glad you are back)

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    • diannegray / Feb 11 2014 6:59 am

      Hello, Karen! So happy to see you here 😀 It’s great to be back xxx

      Thank you so much for the congrats. The “negative comments stage” LOL – it had to happen sooner or later 😉

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  25. Lynda / Feb 11 2014 12:05 am

    Modern medicine is a wonderful thing, but the love of family and friends is what keeps you going through the ‘cure’. Dianne, I am so happy for your mother!

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    • diannegray / Feb 11 2014 7:06 am

      Thanks so much, Linda 😀 We really need to stay positive during these times (and you’re so right about modern medicine – it’s absolutely amazing what they can do now!) 😀

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  26. Jill Weatherholt / Feb 11 2014 12:22 am

    I remember your post from last year, Dianne. This is fabulous news! I’m so happy for your mother and your entire family. I’ve always believed attitude plays a big role in healing.
    In regards to your response to Anon…EXCELLENT! The original comment by this chowderhead was obnoxious and uncalled for. “It takes more than ‘on-line love’ to support cancer sufferers.” Thankfully you and your mother believe otherwise. Thank you for sharing this wonderful news, Dianne!

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    • diannegray / Feb 11 2014 7:10 am

      Thank you so much, Jill. It certainly hasn’t been an easy road for any of us, but it’s so good to know that cancer doesn’t have to be a death sentence (and people shouldn’t treat it as such).

      I love the word ‘chowderhead’ – what a classic! 😉

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  27. Ruth Rainwater / Feb 11 2014 2:00 am

    Fabulous news!! Yippe!! Woo hoo!! When anyone beats cancer, it’s a win for all of us battling. And a positive attitude is so important, as you know. Anon must be a bitter, sad, person. Maybe she lost someone to cancer and resents those who beat it – who knows? Your response to her was fantastic! If the oncology nurses I deal with had that attitude, I would have found a different doctor! So I’m picturing you all drinking champagne, and lift my glass to your Mom! 🙂

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    • diannegray / Feb 11 2014 7:16 am

      Thank you so much, Ruth. I was really hoping you’d come over and comment today. I know it’s so hard to stay positive particularly when other people can be so negative. But you are an inspiration to all of us! Sending big hugs your way xxxx

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      • Ruth Rainwater / Feb 11 2014 7:21 am

        I mostly ignore the negative nellies; but I’m fortunate in that all my friends are positive and encouraging. 🙂

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  28. Anna Belfrage / Feb 11 2014 3:08 am

    First of all, great news re your mother. Secondly, I am SO impressed by your reply to dear Anon. You are a remarkable person Dianne – in very many ways – but perhaps especially because you always brighten up my day, even when discussing something as negative as Anon’s comment. I don’t think you should drink champagne – I think you should bathe in it – and send the bill to dear old Anon 🙂

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    • diannegray / Feb 11 2014 7:18 am

      Haaaaaa! I’d love to bathe in champagne, Anna! 😀

      Thank you so much for your beautiful thoughts and wishes 😀

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  29. Hazy Shades of Me / Feb 11 2014 3:24 am

    OMG – what a moron! Some people are clueless!

    You have made a huge difference to your mother’s health…obviously…and you definitely deserve to celebrate. Congratulations to you & your family and…GO MUM!!! 😊

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    • diannegray / Feb 11 2014 7:54 am

      Thanks, Hazy! I love ‘GO MUM!!!’ – fantastic. There is just so much positive energy here 😀 xxxxx

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  30. Polysyllabic Profundities / Feb 11 2014 5:44 am

    Yay Dianne…..I’m so happy to read the good news about your mother!!! 😀 😀 And I’m glad you waited to respond so eloquently to someone who should not be in the medical profession, in my opinion.

    Big hugs to you and to your mom!! 🙂

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    • diannegray / Feb 11 2014 7:25 am

      Good news is something I love to deliver 😉 Thank you so much for your support and beautiful words. I just love reading your posts (they have given me a lot of hope and inspiration since this whole thing began!) 😀

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  31. Charissa / Feb 11 2014 6:05 am

    Yea for your Mom! That’s awesome. And good for you in taking your time to answer a frown-raiser. No sense giving them attention they are seeking unless it’s to give them good news.

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    • diannegray / Feb 11 2014 7:28 am

      So true, Char! Frown-raiser’s (what a great description!) don’t like good news 😉

      Thanks so much for your well wishes and beautiful thoughts 😀

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  32. billyraychitwood1 / Feb 11 2014 6:14 am

    Such wonderful news about your mother! God bless her!
    Your response to the ‘A-Hole Anon’ was a very special read. To tell with Anon for writing such a negative letter..
    My mom left me several years ago with a stroke – she was approaching ninety… I miss her every day!
    Give your mum a special hug from a guy who can love her without ever meeting her.

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    • diannegray / Feb 11 2014 7:31 am

      Oh yes! A-Hole Anon – I’m still laughing about that and I haven’t even finished reading your response 😀

      Okay – I’ve wiped the tears of laughter away now…

      Your mom sounds like she was a beautiful and special woman and I would have loved to have met her xxx

      I will give my mum a big hug from you 😀

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  33. billyraychitwood1 / Feb 11 2014 6:15 am

    That one line was meant to say: “To hell with Anon…”

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    • diannegray / Feb 11 2014 7:32 am

      Haaaaa! 😉 Oh dear – now I’m laughing even more!

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  34. Maddie Cochere / Feb 11 2014 6:17 am

    I’m so happy for your mother – and your entire family, Dianne. Such wonderful news! And good for you for holding that comment until you could proclaim the good news. This post was a joy to read.

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    • diannegray / Feb 11 2014 7:33 am

      Thank you so much, Maddie – you always put a smile on my face 😀

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  35. jannatwrites / Feb 11 2014 6:47 am

    Great news, Dianne! And good for you for not putting that comment through for your mom to see. I believe in miracles, that hardships are learning experiences (whether or not I choose to see the lesson at the time) and that the medical field is not made up of 100% certainty (miracles DO happen.) Prayers and support may not always “cure” the ill, but I can’t think of much that guarantees death more than telling them not to bother fighting because they’ll die anyway.

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    • diannegray / Feb 11 2014 7:40 am

      So true, Janna. I actually found since this happened that some people are very negative towards the elderly. They think they’re just old and are going to die anyway so why bother. It’s been a real eye-opener for me. Having said that, most of the medial profession my mother has dealt with have been fantastic – but those who aren’t can throw a big spanner in the works.

      I also believe in miracles – it’s the only way to live 😀

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  36. jmmcdowell / Feb 11 2014 9:48 am

    Wow, I can’t believe a medical professional would be so ignorant of the fact that positive attitudes and support networks have been demonstrated to play a role in recovery and battling of disease. I love your response to Anon and the way you handled it.

    Most importantly, though, all my best wishes to your mom for an abundance of happy times as she celebrates many more birthdays with you and the family! 🙂

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    • diannegray / Feb 11 2014 1:24 pm

      Thank you so much, JM. Loads of birthdays and Christmases coming up! 😀

      Yes – that ‘medical professional’ was a bit harsh and ignorant 😦

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  37. tw / Feb 11 2014 9:58 am

    Well done Dianne’s Mum 🙂 and well done Dianne for dealing with this one-sided opinion in the most appropriate manner. There are some people who have no empathy, little understanding and even less humanity. Fortunately they are in a minority and the rest of us will send love, friendship and positive thoughts because those things can and do make a difference. Dr Bernie Siegel and other oncology doctors know this is the case and have plenty of patients who’ve come through against the most horrendous odds. It’s also been scientifically proven that friendship, support and social inclusion have a positive impact on the outcomes for cancer patients so Anon is out of date as well as out of order. Sending much love to you, your Mum and your family, enjoy the bubbly and many happy times ahead 🙂

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    • diannegray / Feb 11 2014 1:30 pm

      There is so much love out there and I’m really glad anon is in the minority (negative people).

      I love hearing that friendship, support and social inclusion have a positive impact on the outcomes for cancer patients – people who don’t believe this are completely out of touch with the real world.

      Thank you so much for your love and support – it means a lot to me 😀 xxxx

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  38. agjorgenson / Feb 11 2014 1:28 pm

    Such wonderful news! I rejoice with you and yours!!

    It is odd that there are still folk who limit healing powers to a series of prescribed medical treatments (as important as these are). Life is a mystery. Love is a mystery, and it is not too surprising that healing is as well.

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  39. EllaDee / Feb 11 2014 2:42 pm

    Great news 🙂 Hope and faith cost nothing but the results are priceless.

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  40. ocdreader / Feb 11 2014 2:49 pm

    Congratulations to your MOM! That is awesomely wonderful news and I am so happy for you guys
    Anon is a grumpy guss with way too much horrible “reality” weighing them down. Pretty sad actually. Nicely done Dianne.

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    • diannegray / Feb 12 2014 5:14 pm

      Thanks so much, Elisa 😀

      Definitely a grumpy anon who is way too far into their own downer…

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  41. Sheila / Feb 12 2014 1:11 am

    So glad to hear your mom’s doing better. I’m sure your posts have been making her laugh and laughter really is great medicine. That froggie one must have done the trick! xoxo

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  42. Britt Skrabanek / Feb 12 2014 3:19 am

    Way to go, Dianne! What a turd that commenter was! Love and laughter are important…they keep us going. Glad your mom is doing better.

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    • diannegray / Feb 12 2014 5:22 am

      LOL – Turd is a great word! 😉

      Thank you, my darling 😀

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  43. Letizia / Feb 12 2014 6:41 am

    I’m so delighted to hear the good news about your mother!! That nurse obviously doesn’t understand her/his calling: healing actions and words!

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    • diannegray / Feb 12 2014 5:23 pm

      Thank you so much, Letizia 😀 xxxx

      Yes – one wonders what happened to anon’s calling of “healing actions and words”. Very odd indeed…

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  44. restlessjo / Feb 12 2014 6:56 am

    How COULD she and how DARE she? Your lovely mum is thankfully living proof that love and a strong spirit can triumph, Dianne. God bless!

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    • diannegray / Feb 12 2014 3:19 pm

      Thanks, Jo. I was pretty annoyed when I saw it for exactly that reason.

      My mum is living proof a strong spirit can triumph and many people are amazed at her incredible recovery! 😀

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  45. anotherday2paradise / Feb 12 2014 12:07 pm

    I’m so ecstatically happy for your mom, and for you too, Dianne. What a brave lady, and as you say, “a true champion.” I really can’t understand how someone could be so cruel as to leave such a negative comment on your post. I’m sure that your love, caring, and thoughtfulness, has really been such a help to your mom during this traumatic period of her life. Kudos to you both, and all the very best to your mom. xx

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    • diannegray / Feb 12 2014 3:25 pm

      Thank you so much, Sylvia. She is an incredibly mentally strong woman and I didn’t think she’d let this beat her 😀

      I’m sure you know what it’s like having amazing and strong women in your life 😉

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  46. Janna G. Noelle / Feb 12 2014 12:36 pm

    Dianne, I’m so happy to hear about your mother’s remission! What wonderful news for her, you, and the rest of your family. I’m also proud by the civility and sensibility of your response to that Anon troll. Hopefully s/he will think twice before writing something so insensitive in the future.

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    • diannegray / Feb 12 2014 3:28 pm

      Thank you so much, Janna. It’s great news for my mum and the entire family! 😀 It was a very difficult 12 months xxx

      Anon is just weird. Maybe they thought they were doing me a favour by telling me there was no hope – I’m glad I don’t have people like that in my real life! 😉 Yikes – I’d leave home…

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  47. mcwoman / Feb 13 2014 1:56 am

    I’m glad you gave that “nurse” the old 1-2–3! I hate naysayers. Congratulations to your Mom for her hard work and what a wonderful Valentine Present to you to know she’s cancer-free. Hugs. Barb

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    • diannegray / Feb 14 2014 6:43 am

      Thanks so much, Barb 😀

      Naysayers are the pits! and I just love the old 1-2–3! LOL

      Happy Valentines Day 😀 xxxxx

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  48. Zen A. / Feb 13 2014 9:23 am

    YAY. This is excellent news! I’m so happy to hear that your mum has made a full recovery – just goes to show that that so-called nurse really didn’t know what she was talking about. What an awful thing to say by someone who’s supposed to be nurturing and supportive and to give hope to patients. Your reply to her is perfect! *hugs*

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    • diannegray / Feb 14 2014 3:39 pm

      YAY – you’ve been freed from my spam! I’ll check it more often from now on 😉

      It is wonderful news and I’m so glad to share it with you, my darling xxxx

      Big *hugs* to you too

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  49. Denise Hisey / Feb 14 2014 1:02 am

    So happy for you and your family, Dianne!
    Anon sounds like a very unhappy person and might not even realize how destructive his/her words are. I would hope he/she speaks differently to patients because attitude is really half the battle.

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    • diannegray / Feb 14 2014 6:48 am

      Attitude is SO important, Denise. I found anon’s comment judgmental and if there’s one thing that irks me – it’s judgmental people.

      Thank you so much for your best wishes – all is going very well in our lives at the moment 😀

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  50. cestlavie22 / Feb 14 2014 11:29 pm

    Wow some people really are heartless. I get that scientifically speaking love and affection doesn’t “cure” anything but you know what I think in some cosmic sense it really does help. Wasn’t this anon ever a kid sick with some cold and had their mother taking care of them? I am certain the mother loving and caring for a child isn’t scientifically “curing” their child but it might be giving them the strength and good spirits to help the body along. Maybe I am crazy but I think love has a lot of crazy power that science just cant explain.

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    • diannegray / Feb 15 2014 5:39 am

      You’re so right! I may not have a medical degree, but that doesn’t mean I can’t try everything in my power to help. Getting better is something that comes from the medical side and also the psychological side – some people just don’t get this.

      Thanks so much for your thoughts 😀

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  51. Jacqui Murray / Feb 15 2014 3:58 am

    We–as webmasters–are entrusted to keep the tone of our blogs. It has nothing to do with censorship. You did the right thing. I regularly refuse to publish posts that are rude, prejudicial, insulting.

    I’m sorry you had to read that last year.

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    • diannegray / Feb 15 2014 5:41 am

      Thanks so much, Jacqui – I’m glad I’m not alone in this. I didn’t want to ‘censor’ anything, I just didn’t think it was appropriate at the time xxx

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  52. Marianne / Feb 15 2014 5:22 pm

    It’s all about attitude – and your support for your Mum shines through, Dianne.

    So glad to hear the good news, and what a pity you had to read such a heartless comment last year, when you must have been out of your mind with worry.

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    • diannegray / Feb 16 2014 7:29 am

      Thank you so much, Marianne 😀

      It really is about attitude and I’ve learned a lot during this time about the importance of being positive and supportive 😉

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  53. roughwighting / Feb 16 2014 6:20 am

    Wow, wow, wow. Your blog gave me goosebumps. I am SO so happy to hear about your mom. Wonderful news. My mom is 90 (in 2 weeks) and she also reads every single one of my blogs. She’s my biggest fan, and always finds something positive to say about whatever I’ve written. Through the years she’s had a few health problems (not many, considering her age) and has just gritted her teeth through them (replaced hip, breast cancer) as if it’s a small annoyance to be fought, to win, and then to forget it and keep on. I love the courage and stamina of our moms! I also love your response to the oncology nurse; personally, I can’t believe she really is a nurse, because from what I hear, nurses see (non medical-related) miracles every day. Nurses and doctors should be the FIRST people who stress that love, family, friendship can fight and win through anything.

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    • diannegray / Feb 16 2014 7:39 am

      I totally agree – the fact that she states straight up she’s an oncology nurse flashed red lights to me…it seemed like that was an introduction to have a dig

      Your mum sounds amazing – this age group are so inspirational! Breast cancer and hip replacement and then lets just move on and get on with things! I love that positive attitude.

      Even the doctors are stunned and say my mums recovery is phenomenal given her age and the advancement of the cancer.

      Give your mum a big hug from me 😀 xxxx

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  54. Anna Hergert / Feb 16 2014 4:17 pm

    Diana, So happy for you, your mom and your family! Staying positive throughout this trying time and pulling together in receiving healing energy from friends everywhere has certainly contributed to this positive outcome. Enjoy the champagne! Sending warm hugs from Canada!

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  55. cocoaupnorth / Feb 16 2014 8:12 pm

    Brilliant news! I’m so happy for you my friend and your entire family. Sending loving hugs to your mom & raising my ‘virtual’ glass of champers in celebrating your positive attitude. Keep well…xxx

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    • diannegray / Feb 17 2014 5:33 am

      Thank you, Cocoa! The champagne is still flowing 😀

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  56. Margie / Feb 19 2014 12:57 am

    Wonderful news indeed!
    When my child had cancer, her Doctor told us that the possibility of a cure was as much about our attitude as it was about his medicine! The first resource I turned to was Erma Bombeck’s book about Children Surviving Cancer.

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    • diannegray / Feb 19 2014 6:53 am

      It is wonderful, Margie 😀 Your child’s doctor was so right – big hugs to you xxx

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  57. Piper George / Feb 19 2014 7:46 am

    Well done to your mum for standing up to this horrible illness and fighting it! Well done to you for ignoring for so long such a twisted arse as the one who posted and well done even more for kicking arse when needed. x

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    • diannegray / Feb 19 2014 8:06 am

      Thanks so much, Piper. My mum is a very strong woman and beat the odds stacked up against her. I’m very proud of her indeed 😉

      Twisted arse is a great name for anon – LOL 😀

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  58. Kourtney Heintz / Feb 23 2014 1:44 am

    Yay! Congrats to your mom and to you! That was quite a battle she fought with you by her side. I think you were absolutely right to not approve that comment and your response is perfect. There is this amazing thing call the human spirit and it’s something medical professionals can’t treat or quantify. But it’s something that allows people to beat the odds and to do the undoable.

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    • diannegray / Feb 23 2014 6:49 am

      Thanks Kourtney 😀 I don’t know where we would be without modern medicine, but determination and the feeling of being loved and wanted go a looooong way! 😉

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